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General => General Discussion => Social Discussion => Topic started by: Trickster on June 28, 2012, 07:25:49 PM
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OK so lately i have been trying to deal with an issue and i don't think i can handle it anymore i trust this community enough so i am here to seek advice from you guys. So this is the issue at hand, about 3 months ago my girlfriend dumped me because her parents where giving her a hard time about us seeing each other but today i walk into the mall and i am in the main atrium only to see her holding hands with another guy. It's at this point where my world is totally destroyed and honestly i don't know what to think anymore part of me wan'ts to yell and scream at her the other want's to just hate her till she dies. Honestly i don't know what to do at this point i am really growing desperate like this is messing me up as a person i find it's hard to eat,Sleep,Rp i dont know maybe you guy's can tell me something that i have not thought of yet.
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Moved to the proper section.
On topic:
Honestly, if she broke up with you three months ago, and is now seeing somone else- the only thing you can really do is move on. Another option would be to disscuss your feelings with her, and go from there.
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It's been three months. Get over it. I know you're young and you're quite sensitive, but the only option you have is to move on.
And she probably gave you that reason so you won't get hurt.
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Simplest solution: Time.
It will take a little while, but you will get over her and all she's done (assuming you're offended at her for finding someone else). The process will be shortened quite a bit if you are able to find someone else for yourself. You will be rewarded for "putting yourself out there" by meeting and getting to know people. Hard times are not fun at all, but then again that's why they're not called "fun times". As harsh as this may sound; get over it, move on. You're still young and it's not the end of the world so don't treat it as such.
edit: Brandon and Jonco beat me too the punch, it seems, but everything still applies.
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I can honestly say that i was thinking in the heat of the moment and did not take these things into account thanks allot guys, I think this is just what i needed to hear.
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The best way to get over a lost love, is a new love.
See if there are any other nice girls around that you might could work with?
It's worth a try. Good luck!
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I have been dating my girlfriend (Jamison) for 5 years with some change now and I would be in really bad condition if we broke up over something silly as so would she. I know how that feels as the girl I went out with before Jamison did the same thing. Get a new girl and enjoy life.
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Moved to social discussion.
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Some girls arent worth it and make up lame excuses. Example, I dated this one girl awhile back who broke up after going to cadet camp for no specified reason. Being the nice guy I was like whatever K we'll just be friends. Two weeks later I see pictures on Facebook of her with this random guy which she apparently left me for.
Then she asked me out again. K fine I guess. Might as well give it another shot. After about half a year she broke up saying she was too busy with school and work. Depressed, I was still the nice guy and said Whatever. Bye. I found out about three weeks later she was looking to date this druggie she met at work. Wow ok.
Point is, girls make up lame ass excuses to ditch you. Instead of sitting around moping and being depressed, focus on finding new love as the other have stated. If this new love allows it (like my current one) you can clean off the wound by ranting to her about it.
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Whenever I get mad at someone for whatever reason, I just fight them. Easy way to deal with your problems and then move on after that (at least for me). So I'd fight the guy she is dating now, then get over it. Just make sure he isn't stronger than you, lol.
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Whenever I get mad at someone for whatever reason, I just fight them. Easy way to deal with your problems and then move on after that (at least for me). So I'd fight the guy she is dating now, then get over it. Just make sure he isn't stronger than you, lol.
Why? What has HE done to deserve that? She is the one that is the issue, not him. An age old clichè but violence is not always the answer. Either be diplomatic about the situation or just move on I say.
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Whenever I get mad at someone for whatever reason, I just fight them. Easy way to deal with your problems and then move on after that (at least for me). So I'd fight the guy she is dating now, then get over it. Just make sure he isn't stronger than you, lol.
Why? What has HE done to deserve that? She is the one that is the issue, not him. An age old clichè but violence is not always the answer. Either be diplomatic about the situation or just move on I say.
IDK but fighting always seems to work good. Gets your anger out. So take your anger out on the chicks BF, and then you can move on.
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Whenever I get mad at someone for whatever reason, I just fight them. Easy way to deal with your problems and then move on after that (at least for me). So I'd fight the guy she is dating now, then get over it. Just make sure he isn't stronger than you, lol.
Why? What has HE done to deserve that? She is the one that is the issue, not him. An age old clichè but violence is not always the answer. Either be diplomatic about the situation or just move on I say.
IDK but fighting always seems to work good. Gets your anger out. So take your anger out on the chicks BF, and then you can move on.
Le sigh to you cow, le sigh to you. A word of advice to the op is to never get into a fight with the girls new bf, because then she will not like you.
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I think i'm just going to move on due to the fact that his dad is a police officer. :P
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Look here. There are more girls out there that want to have a boyfriend and you might be one of them. If your girlfriend breaks up with you, don't just stand there. Get a new one.
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Whenever I get mad at someone for whatever reason, I just fight them. Easy way to deal with your problems and then move on after that (at least for me). So I'd fight the guy she is dating now, then get over it. Just make sure he isn't stronger than you, lol.
So what you're saying is that you're going to *attempt* to kick the shit out of someone for liking the same girl as you? That's hypocritical.
It's not "attempt" if you know you will win. There is easy ways to winning fights, like having your friends to back you up. And if you just know how to fight at all.
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Just remember mate, if you broke up over a reason like that, it was never meant to be, so take justice from such and move on.
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Whenever I get mad at someone for whatever reason, I just fight them. Easy way to deal with your problems and then move on after that (at least for me). So I'd fight the guy she is dating now, then get over it. Just make sure he isn't stronger than you, lol.
So what you're saying is that you're going to *attempt* to kick the shit out of someone for liking the same girl as you? That's hypocritical.
It's not "attempt" if you know you will win. There is easy ways to winning fights, like having your friends back you up. And if you just know how to fight at all.
I'm not trying to flame here, but to me, that made you sound like a major tool. You never know what anyone is capable of. You could fight someone, and they pull out a knife. You could fight someone and they might be a better fighter than you. I've seen scrawny kids beat the living shit out of ripped dudes. "like having your friends back you up" That's not having them back you up when you are the one attacking the kid. That's called jumping. Basically "I'm going to kick this kid's ass for a hypocritical reason, and then if I've bit off more than I can chew, and I start loosing, then my friends are going to kick his ass for defending himself." I fail to see your logic.
There's no real justification for what you've said. I seriously lost a lot of respect for you for that. I'm not trying to be a dick, but you need to think before you speak.
If the guy really hates him that much, then fight him. If it's not that big of a deal, then don't.
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A serious solution to your matter is to go gay.
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A serious solution to your matter is to go gay.
Agreed. Things are easier.
I'd suggest avoiding violence at all costs. As others said, it's not her new boyfriend's fault, it's her fault. You should really just move on, look for new love. It may be difficult, but there's no point in reveling in something that was the past, and that you can't have anymore.
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A serious solution to your matter is to go gay.
Agreed. Things are easier.
I'd suggest avoiding violence at all costs. As others said, it's not her new boyfriend's fault, it's her fault. You should really just move on, look for new love. It may be difficult, but there's no point in reveling in something that was the past, and that you can't have anymore.
Cow- So what I'm getting from this is that you're a bully? You don't like someone, so you assault them? You need to grow up and learn to solve your problems. I understand you think you're big and bad, but one day you're going to try to kick the wrong guys ass, in which case from what I've heard here, you would have earned every bit of what you get.
It's either that, or you're just trying to sound like a bad ass over the internet, in which case, we're back to "You need to grow up."
I'm just telling him that if he has a problem, then he should deal with it. And no, I'm not a bully. I am just suggesting something.
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Trickster, I don't know how old you are but from this post you sound young enough that this whole dating thing is new to you. A piece of advice that never goes bad and is good to learn early is this: Nobody is perfect. I remember the age when the girl.you had a crush on was just the best and no one could even compare. But honestly, that's hormones mixed with only seeing love in movies where everyone lives happily ever after with their soulmate. That isn't how the real world works. You will go through lots of girlfriends and lots of years until you find a keeper, so don't stress over the little things now. 3 months is too long to be hung up on a girl, no matter how pretty she is or whatever it was that made you so infatuated that it seemed so important to you at such a young age. And remember that just because she moved on first doesn't mean she was unfaithful or anything, and don't blame the guy for dating a girl that's been single for 3 months. Maybe she fibbed to break up with you, which is a shame, but you also have to consider it might just have been her way of trying not to hurt your feelings by saying she didn't want to date you.
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A serious solution to your matter is to go gay.
Agreed. Things are easier.
I'd suggest avoiding violence at all costs. As others said, it's not her new boyfriend's fault, it's her fault. You should really just move on, look for new love. It may be difficult, but there's no point in reveling in something that was the past, and that you can't have anymore.
Cow- So what I'm getting from this is that you're a bully? You don't like someone, so you assault them? You need to grow up and learn to solve your problems. I understand you think you're big and bad, but one day you're going to try to kick the wrong guys ass, in which case from what I've heard here, you would have earned every bit of what you get.
It's either that, or you're just trying to sound like a bad ass over the internet, in which case, we're back to "You need to grow up."
I'm just telling him that if he has a problem, then he should deal with it. And no, I'm not a bully. I am just suggesting something.
Can you actually suggest something that isn't dumb as shit? You sound like one of those kids who think fighting everyone around your friends makes you cool when it doesn't.
My advice to Trickster is to ignore Cow's advice, and to move on, forget about that girl completely (doesn't mean start thinking "Don't think about it." etc because that just keeps it in your mind. Eventually this is all going to just pass by and you will find someone else.
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Had a gf, knew it prolly wouldnt last so i made sure to not get into the relationship too much (as in let my self just go crazy for her) nice girl but then she left me for some asshole that doesnt even treat her right. bcuz i didnt get to attached it was fairly easy to handle and i didnt even feel sad or angry about it