Lets see i've tried

1. Rejoining server

2. Deleting caches then joining server

3. starting single player before joining server

4. "retry" in console

5. joining outlands, same thing happends

also i can just see the "afk" timer ticking down, so its somthing else.

Edit: also i know 1 and 4 are the same i just thought i'll add it to the list of things i've tried

edit2: decided to add screenshots of this http://imageshack.us/photo/my-images/534/newbitmapimage5o.png/

edit3: Ok pressing q brings up the spawn menu, f2 brings up the character remember but pressing F1 and tab does nothing.